Personals, Love & Relationships Discussions

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Stuck in LA Dating Hell

shamama
3d ago
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Six months ago, I became an Angelino, I moved to this city of beautiful people hitting the ground running. I meet my share of babes, but here's the rub: We hang out -- sometimes we even hook up -- but whenever I vaguely gesture at making a deeper connection, they vanish.

It'll go something like this: we meet and hit it off, we enthusiastically exchange numbers and text obsessively for weeks. But I'll accidentally do something too boyfriend-y, like offer to cook them dinner, and they scuttle away; I've tried everything from playing hard to get to being transparent and up front. I've even tried negging them, but they just neg me back.

I use all the hookup apps, have profiles on all the dating sites, scour the bars. Regardless of where or how we meet, I do something that inexplicably sends them running. Is there a code word or something that I'm missing? Will someone versed in the bizarre courtship rituals of The Los Angeles Gay Male please elucidate me on what I'm doing wrong.

Daddy_Alan
2d ago

Unless you're just looking for a hookup w/ NSA, nobody is real. Nobody wants a commitment. Most guys are shallow, low IQ, cannot think for themselves. I wonder how they survive. They are quite literally, dicks without brains, for that matter, without a conscience.
I have been single for over 11 years now & have yet to meet ANYONE with any substance. I have been on just about every dating app & site available, & found no one locally, even remotely sincere. All of the friendships I have made online are mostly from other countries. I dare say American men are an abismal vacuum of sincerity. With every passing generation being deliberately dumbed down by what horribly passes for an education system, being taught no values, in fact, being taught that values are meaningless, we are getting generations of ignorant, gutless wonders who think they are entitled to everything without having to earn it. And if you dare say a word to the opposite, they will damn near riot. Some call them Milenials

shamama
20h 3m ago

Wow -- thanks for the thoughtful response, Daddy. I am glad I'm not the only one ...

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Oops, I did it again!

Craig
5d ago

So another year of love just flew by and, if I don't do something quick, I'm probably going to be sleeping outside in the dog-house tomorrow night with only my tears and my mother-in-law's dogs to keep me company. Last year I learned that gifting a song strummed to the tune of 'Disco Stick' by Lady Gaga, on an out-of-tune ukulele, isn't going to cut it. Neither is a gas station wine run. Nor my tears.

Luckily, I just found out that FTD flowers is going to be taking deliveries until midnight tonight for Valentine's Day deliveries. So, hopefully, I'll be cuddling up tomorrow with someone who's breath doesn't smell of beef and dirty teeth.

Does anyone have any other ideas, just in case I need a backup?

Last Minute Valentine's Flowers Delivered

shamama
5d ago
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It's the thought that counts -- and looks like you weren't thinking!

(I know the See's Candy in Thousand Oaks is open 'til 9 tonight)

oilme2003
1d ago

Is there a Rochester or Winona chat room

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How to start meeting men after a breakup?

HwdPerry
6 Feb

Love to just meet a few guys for companionship, sex, dating.

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Hey everyone, im new to this site and see what it can offer. Looking...

DinoRanger93
6 Feb

Hey everyone, im new to this site and see what it can offer. Looking for someone down to earth to chat and meet with, dont be shy to hit me up

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where is the love at for an undetectable older man?

WOOODY
4 Feb

where is the love at for an undetectable older man?

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I think that the gay lifestyle has gone flipping mad! Everything is...

Daddy_Alan
31 Jan

I think that the gay lifestyle has gone flipping mad! Everything is sex, sex, sex! The reality couldn't be farther from it. To be gay is to have the capability and desire to not just be attracted to the same sex, but to have a burning yearning to date, fall in love, and get married! Just like in a straight relationship.
Any man can throw off the gay stigma for the sake of recreational sex. Taken to the extremes of perversion, even a sheep would do in a pinch. Those men are NOT gay! They're sex addicts. Or really f#cking confused. It takes a real gay man to desire to find a single partner with the intention of being a life mate.

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