@mike58 Hi, Mike. Thank you for listening. I've spent most of my life with dreams/fantasies/interests in being the opposite gender (female). As I grew older and became romantically/sexually active, I began to date and sleep with women, but the same-sex/submissive/opposite gender thoughts never went away, and have only gotten stronger. Especially the same-sex thoughts. Also, when sleeping with women, it takes me a while to be able to perform. So these factors are real, but coupled with an honest interest in being romantically involved with women, I'm left just so confused. I'm basically looking for any insight or advice anyone can offer into my story. Does the growth/prevalence/strength of my same-sex sexual thoughts have a lasting impact, or clear sign that I might be in denial about, when it comes to my sexuality? There's a lot of fear I have about what may happen to me or my friendships/relationships if I do end up finding out my sexuality is different that what I or they understand it to be. I've been questioning for so long though, and it causes me distress when thinking about relationships and finding someone to spend my life with. I'd appreciate any thoughts or advice you could offer. Thanks!